"Is my child ready?" is the first question almost every parent asks. The honest answer: there's no magic age. Most kids show signs somewhere between about 18 months and 3 years, and every child is different.

Both of our kids were ready at about two and a half. Here's what we looked for, and what to watch for with yours.

This was the big one for us. Our kids didn't need to ask to go potty on their own. They just needed to understand when we said, "Let's go potty." If your toddler can follow simple directions like "bring me your shoes," they can likely follow this one.

They don't need full sentences. A few words, like "pee," "poop," "potty," or even a sign, make it much easier to communicate.

If you notice dry diapers after naps or for two hours or so during the day, their bladder is getting stronger.

Hiding behind the couch, squatting, going quiet, stopping play, grunting. Our son hid; our daughter did a deep squat. A clear cue means you can catch them in time.

Pulling at a diaper, telling you it's wet, or wanting it changed are all signs they're aware of what's happening.

Following you in, wanting to flush, asking questions. Curiosity is a great starting point.

They don't need to do it all alone, but being able to help push pants down and pull them up makes things go smoother.

This one is about your family, not just your child. A new baby, a move, a new daycare or an illness can all make potty training harder. If things are hectic, it's okay to wait a few weeks. Our daughter had a setback after we moved and changed daycares, so timing really does matter.

That's completely fine. Waiting a few weeks or months isn't failing. Keep reading potty books, let them watch you, and talk about the potty in a relaxed way. Check again in a month.

If your child is well past three and shows no interest, has pain when they pee or poop, is often constipated, or you have any worries about their development, talk with your pediatrician. They can rule out anything medical and help you plan.

Print the free readiness checklist and cue tracker. Check what fits your child today. If most boxes are ticked, you're probably ready to start.

When you are, The Prep-First Potty Plan walks you through a one-week plan built for busy parents.